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« Thread Started on Oct 22, 2008, 9:01pm » | |
Vanessa, feel free to introduce yourself here and good luck in moderating this forum. I am excited to have you onboard as someone who is dedicated to bringing changes where changes are due.
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vanessa
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« Reply #1 on Oct 23, 2008, 2:43pm » | |
Hi John,
Thank you for the introduction and for adding this topic to your forum.
My name is Vanessa. I am a trans racial adoptee. I was born in India and stolen from my family at the age of four. You can see my video at www.youtube.com/iwasstolen there is a part one and a part two to the video and both videos together are seven minutes long. I was adopted into Canada at the age of eight years old to a family who had already been found unfit to adopt me but through private international adoption they were able to get me.
Once I was adopted I faced many years of sexual and physical abuse. I was finally taken into the care of the ministry of children and families at the age of 14.
Once in the care of social services I went through several foster homes. In one of the homes I was offered a ride by an acquaintance of my foster mother and then this man raped me. This man is well known to the police for raping young girls.
I was under severe trauma from this as well as having to deal with the trial against my adopted father for sexual abuse. Due to my trauma I was placed in a special care foster home. Once I arrived in this special care home the adult son of my foster mother got me drunk and after I had vomited and passed out he had sex with me.
This continued until I started bleeding severely for two months. I was taken by a worker to the hospital and and ultrasound was performed on me. I was then told that I was pregnant with twins and miscarrying. Emergency surgery was performed on me to save my life.
Instead of pulling me out of this home social services put me back in the home and the sexual relationship continued until I became pregnant again.
This time social services signed papers and i was married to him. i faced years of physical and emotional abuse at the hands of my then husband and his family. It also came to light that I was not the first foster child that this adult son was having sex with.
This special care foster home was eventually shut down due to complaints and the reasons for shutting the home down was due to the conduct of the adult children of the special care foster mother towards foster children.
This has made me concerned for other international adoptees whose adoptions fail and end up in the system. These children lose there language as well as there culture and end up in a foreign country with no family or anything and end up falling through the holes in the system.
I am working right now to set up a safety net for international adoptees so that there rights are recognized and that there are safety measures set in place so that this does happen to other children.
If you are an international adoptee or know anyone who is an international adoptee whose adoption failed please have them contact me because there voices need to be heard.
Thank you
vanessa
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ardadvocate1
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| | Re: Introduction
« Reply #2 on Oct 24, 2008, 9:41pm » | |
Hi Vanessa:
It is Alice welcome aboard, and I too look forward to seeing what happens and will enjoy learning all about this adoption stuff. Again welcome aboard.
Alice aka ardadvocate1
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icasn
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« Reply #3 on Dec 2, 2008, 2:56am » | |
Hi Vanessa .. great to see this forum! I am a transracial adoptee, adopted from Vietnam into a white caucasian family in Australia. I have founded a support network for intercountry adoptees (at www.icasn.org/) and we now have around 500 intercountry adoptees from around the world in this network.
It's shocking that to some of us suffered abuse at the hands of our adoptive families ... I know quite a few adoptees who have undergone terrible experiences in their adoptions .. some you wonder how their abuse went undetected and why their adoptions didn't actually "fail" .. I guess their adopters were a little smarter at not being caught! But there is definitely a need to have a place for transracial adoptees who's adoptions breakdown and for adoptees who suffer further trauma at the hands of their adoptive families!
Well done for being brave, speaking up about your story and actually doing something about changing things!
I've got this link attached to our website!
Cheers
Lynelle
www.icasn.org/
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